Everyone likes to feel successful in their ventures, but sometimes people take it to the extreme by needing to be the best or the winner in every situation. While it’s a great quality to always put forth your best effort, being overly competitive can cause stress and tension. It can even hinder your future success and accomplishments. Rather than succumb to these unhealthy emotions consider these methods to help you overcome your competitive nature, and instead learn to be at ease and enjoy what you have.
Celebrate the Accomplishments of Others
It may seem counter-intuitive to combat feelings of competitiveness by celebrating others accomplishments, however it’s the perfect antidote. There is a power that comes with being happy for others. When you root for and cheer on your peers, you are attracting the same energy. The support that you give to others will circle back to you and you will be better off because of it.
Don’t Fall Prey to the Comparison Trap
It’s easy to compare yourself to others. Although it may begin innocently enough, in the long-term it can cause damage to your self-worth and be destructive to your goals. It’s important to understand that everyone possesses different skills, talents, and abilities. Because of this we’re able to have powerful collaborations that result in wild success. However, it also means that no one is ever on a level playing ground. There is no way to win the comparison game. It is impossible to have more or be better than everyone else at a given time. And even if you could be better than everyone just for a moment, how would that even enrich your life?
Rather than focusing on how you compare to others, instead focus on being a better version of yourself each day. In general people don’t form opinions of us based on how we compare to others. Our actions are what drive other’s opinions.
Being yourself is the key to being successful. Why? Because, your own unique self can’t be duplicated or recreated and those qualities are what set you apart. It’s important to know who you are as a person and accept yourself. Take pride in the qualities you bring to the table and view your quirks and characteristics as assets. Rather than trying to fit into a mold of what you think you should be, instead focus your energy on opportunities that reward your unique perspective and qualities.
Be careful not to let your self-worth get confused with external rewards and accolades. When you are living as your true authentic self, you should be able to find happiness with who you are and won’t feel the need to be the best in every situation.
Be Your Own #1 Fan
It doesn’t matter how many people are on your side to support you and cheer you on if you can’t do the same for yourself. In order to realize true success it’s essential to be on your own team. It’s too easy to be our own worst enemy and critic, but what we gain from being our own number one fan is an undying belief in ourselves and our goals.
Make a Decision to Change
It’s one thing to acknowledge that your competitive nature is holding you back or making you unhappy. It’s a completely different thing to make the decision to change. After all, true competition is about doing your personal best. What a good opportunity for you to be the best at being your own true self. As cliché as it may seem your only competition is yourself. Challenge yourself to be the best version of you. Genuinely celebrate the accomplishments of others, don’t worry about comparisons, and most importantly be true to yourself.